Transforming Failure into Breakthroughs
We’re constantly under pressure to perform, solve problems, and achieve results. And when things don’t go as planned, our inner critic pounces. Suddenly, we're “not enough,” or “not suited for the job,” or a “failure.” The internal struggle is real, and I’ve been there, too. But that self-criticism may be holding you back more than any external challenge you’re facing.
Think about the energy and focus it takes to constantly berate yourself for what didn’t go perfectly. For senior managers, this can be an invisible yet powerful drain on your effectiveness. Negative self-talk keeps you in a place of “I’m not enough,” when what your team, your organization—and ultimately, you—need is for you to show up fully and authentically.
The reality is that constant self-criticism doesn’t make us better leaders. It simply clouds our judgment, stifles creativity, and blinds us to the wins we’ve already achieved. We become so fixated on our perceived shortcomings that we miss the growth that’s happening all around us.
Recently, I went through a period where I felt like I was banging my head against a wall, feeling like I was failing to make a difference with a client. I was so focused on where I thought I was coming up short that I couldn’t see their progress. I missed the fact that the teams I was working with were growing, leaders were evolving, and transformations were unfolding. It took stepping back and reframing my perspective to recognize the impact I was making.
For many of us, it’s easy to fall into this pattern. We become our harshest critics, dismissing our accomplishments in favor of dissecting every perceived flaw.
The Power of a Positive Reframe
Imagine if you approached your career from a place of what’s working, rather than what’s lacking. This simple shift in perspective can have profound effects—not only on your mindset but also on the way you lead. When you focus on the wins, the positive impact, and the progress you’ve made, you create space for more growth and you build on your successes.
Start by asking yourself:
What are the things I’m doing well right now?
Where have I already made an impact?
How can I build on my successes rather than dwell on my setbacks?
Taking time to acknowledge these things can help you lead from a place of strength and empowerment, rather than constantly trying to “fix” yourself.
Allow Imperfection
As senior managers, there’s a tendency to believe that if we just push harder, work longer, or criticize ourselves more, we’ll reach perfection. But perfectionism is a trap. It keeps us in a cycle of negative self-talk, constantly feeling “not enough.” In reality, leadership is about resilience, adaptability, and growth—and that growth requires grace and compassion for yourself.
Beating ourselves up doesn’t serve our teams, our organizations, or ourselves. It blocks our ability to see what’s working, blinds us to new perspectives, and robs us of the joy in our work. Allowing imperfection means understanding that setbacks are part of the process and that every leader, no matter how seasoned, has moments of doubt and self-reflection.
Shift the Story
Here’s a challenge: the next time you catch yourself spiraling into self-doubt or negative self-talk, pause. Reflect on the moments where you’ve made an impact, big or small. Write them down if you need to.
Let these moments remind you of your strengths, your resilience, and your value as a leader. There’s power in shifting the narrative from “I’m failing” to “I’m evolving.” This doesn’t mean ignoring areas for improvement—it means approaching them with self-compassion and a constructive mindset rather than self-blame.
Lead from Your Strengths
Your team looks to you for guidance, stability, and confidence. When you let go of the inner critic and step into a mindset of self-acceptance and growth, you not only better serve yourself, but you also set an example for your team to do the same. Remember, leadership isn’t about being perfect. It’s about showing up as your full self, imperfections and all, and leading from a place of authenticity and self-compassion.
If you’re ready to silence the inner critic and lead with confidence, I’m here to help. Let’s talk about how executive coaching can support you in reframing your mindset, embracing your strengths, and finding balance in your leadership journey.
Jaime Gennaro is a seasoned business consultant and coach with over 20 years of experience helping companies achieve sustainable growth and leadership success. She has held leadership roles in marketing and operational strategy across various industries, including tech startups and creative agencies. Jaime specializes in business coaching for entrepreneurs and guiding leaders in balancing personal and professional growth. She focuses on reducing burnout, achieving business clarity, and developing entrepreneurial leadership strategies for long-term success.
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